I have to share this: my mom was an absolute legend when it came to accepting compliments. Picture this: someone tells her, “Oh, Anita, I love your outfit!” and she flashes the most confident smile and replies, “I know it looks great, doesn’t it?” It was like watching a masterclass in self-love—pure, unfiltered, and a little bit cheeky.
For many of us, especially us women, accepting compliments can feel as awkward as trying to nail a perfect selfie on the first take. We’re so used to scanning ourselves for flaws that when someone says something nice, our inner critic turns up the volume. Instead of simply saying “thank you,” we might blurt out a self-deprecating joke or an “Oh, stop it, you’re too kind” that somehow shrinks the compliment right back down.
Why Do We Do It?
Let’s face it: our mirrors have become our worst frenemies. We scrutinize every wrinkle and freckle, so when someone offers genuine praise, it often collides with our internal “nail-biter” commentary. It’s like our brain isn’t ready to accept that we might actually be pretty awesome. And trust me, that’s a disservice to the fabulous person you are!
Rocking It Like My Mom
My mom didn’t just accept compliments—she owned them. Her confident, sometimes sassy, and always genuine response taught me that accepting a compliment isn’t about vanity; it’s about valuing yourself. Imagine greeting every kind word with a heartfelt “thank you” and letting it sink in, without trying to deflate it with a joke about your “battle scars.”
Fun Tips to Own Your Compliments
Here are a few playful strategies to help you flip the script on deflecting compliments:
Pause and Party: When someone pays you a compliment, take a moment (maybe even do a mini dance in your head) and just let those kind words marinate. That tiny pause is like giving yourself a high-five from the inside.
Practice Makes Perfect: Next time someone admires you, try a simple “thank you” with a smile. It might feel a little goofy at first, but soon you’ll find it becomes second nature.
Keep a Compliment Journal: Write down compliments as they come. On days when you’re feeling less than stellar, flip through your journal and remind yourself of all the amazing things others see in you.
Mirror Pep Talks: Stand in front of your mirror and say something nice about yourself. It might feel silly at first, but hey, if your mirror can handle a little flattery, so can you!
Accepting compliments isn’t just about sounding polite—it’s a radical act of self-love. Every time you allow someone’s kind words to lift you up, you’re reinforcing the truth that you’re worthy, strong, and wonderfully unique. So next time someone compliments you, channel a bit of my mom’s swagger: smile, say “thank you,” and let those good vibes sink in.
Remember, you’re not just a work in progress—you’re a masterpiece in motion. Embrace the compliments, rock them like a boss, and watch how your confidence blossoms.
Until next time, keep shining and keep owning your awesomeness!